Who
is on SPALS? Who else
is on SPALS? Typically, about 400
people are on SPALS. As a typical snapshot: on October 25,
2000 we were 422 subscribers (with some of these
subscriptions representing 2 parents), custodians of 433
live children and parents of 771 angels, with 120 of us
currently pregnant and many others trying. Our
circumstances vary widely and individually. Our loss
experiences range from the first trimester through toddler
years. In addition to
current pregnancies, we represent hundreds of experiences
with pregnancy after a loss. We both seek and
provide information, understanding and support. We exchange
some 20 to 40 messages each day -- depending on our levels
of energy -- with most activity on week days. We strive to
maintain a "safe haven" that welcomes people of all
pregnancy loss backgrounds, in an atmosphere of support and
tolerance. We are from
all
over the world.
Our average age is about 30 -- but some of us are much older
or much younger. See also: the
Bio
List, the
Pregnant
Moms List
and the Trying
Moms List Is there
anyone from SPALS who lives in my area? SPALS people are
from all over the world. To find out if another SPALS member
lives in your general area, check the Bio
List. The
Bio List begins with an index of members by location --
listing members' email addresses so you can identify them in
the detailed bio listings. As an example of the
diversity of SPALS, based on the home location of some 2100
distinct families participating in the first five years,
SPALS members have represented every continent except (to
our knowledge) Antarctica. See also:
What
is the Bio List Does
anyone else on SPALS have a similar loss? People on SPALS
represent a tremendous diversity of loss experiences. While
no two losses are ever exactly the same, chances are someone
else on the list has had a similar experience. To help find others
with similar loss experiences, our Bio
List is
coded with terms and abbreviations that are consistent. To
find someone with a similar loss, there are two
approaches: See also:
What
is the Bio List How can I
meet with people for conversation? People on SPALS
occasionally meet for conversation -- usually, someone
volunteers to coordinate a gathering. Gatherings can be
either "real" or "virtual": Face to face
gatherings Those who have
gathered together report that it is a delight to meet their
SPALS friends in person. Such gatherings may be arranged on
the initiative of people in a common location or area. Use
the Bio List to identify
other SPALS members in your area.
And be sure to let the list know when you are arranging a
gathering -- just in case another member of SPALS may be
passing through! Online
discussions Numerous
technologies are available to facilitate online discussions:
IRC, ICQ, web chat areas, and a variety of "instant
messaging" services. Experienced users of these technologies
often include their contact information along with their
bio. Online gatherings
may be arranged on the initiative of individual members --
choose a time and be sure to inform others of how and where
they can meet with you. Or, if you prefer, you can make it
clear that people may simply "drop in" when they are
online. See also:
Is
there anyone in my area